Friday, April 27, 2012

Another lesson from my daughter

My daughter continues to amaze me with her insight and maturity.

She has been disappointed lately with a couple of friends that she thought were true friends, but according to her, they have "ditched" her. She doesn't have any idea why. It happened suddenly, without an obvious cause. No fights, no disagreements or anything she can put her finger on. She thinks they've just moved on.

For awhile, she just kept thinking that maybe she was overreacting. But they've just stopped calling. At school, in their regular circle of friends, they're polite and cordial, but it goes no further. H asked them both, separately, if she had done anything to piss them off, and they both told her "No, everything's fine. I love you to death"...blah blah blah. But nothing changed.

Today a couple of things happened at school that made her tell me that she just needs to admit it to herself that they've moved on.

I asked her if she still had plans to meet one of them for breakfast (Plans that were made long ago). She said, "Yes."

I said, "Well, maybe you need to tell her you're busy. Give her a taste of her own medicine."

H looked at me and said, "Why would I do that? I know how much it hurts."

Oops. Once again she's more mature than I am.